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Be it a personality quirk, something they're wearing, or just the way they look. What makes them instantly hot?

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[–] andrewta@lemmy.world 7 points 20 hours ago (3 children)

By reading the other comments I’d say you might be wrong

[–] ICCrawler@lemmy.world -2 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

TBF to the guy, I never believed in instant love either for the longest time. Then a couple really shitty things happened, and I was pretty much left with zero emotional anchors. Then attraction/infatuation suddenly went wild, and I was so not ready to cope with it. Maybe that dude is just not there yet for one reason or another. It's hard to believe in an experience you haven't had yet.

[–] quediuspayu@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I believe he's taking the question literally, as op asking for some universal truth instead of what each one of us finds personally irresistible.

[–] ICCrawler@lemmy.world 3 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago)

I mean, that seems like a pretty dumb conclusion for him to jump to, but yeah, it could be the case I suppose.