Ask Lemmy

I have never had problems meeting women. But i have the same anxiety taking to women in intrigued by. I learned to remember that women also want company and feel anxiety and giddy when meeting someone attractive. It might even be a safety thing that you need time to get closer to someone so both sides can feel safe and comfortable. I learned to carefully watch people without staring. They will eventually notice and their reaction will tell you pretty clearly if they find you attractive. And there is somebody for everybody believe the middle aged balding dude with the broken marriage. Now if you find someone equally interested you should be hanging around them, so find a non creepy excuse to spend time in their proximity. That's where all the talk of finding groups to join comes from. Maybe she is as shy as you are, try to imagine how she might be feeling. So you both need time to find your way through that. With time and ample opportunity one or both of you with inch closer and it starts with short eye contacts and maybe one or two words exchanged.

The most important thing to realize is that most women even if attracted might not be the perfect situational match, so don't latch on and try to force the situation. Just keep your eyes peeled, enjoy the process as it usually gives you confidence and always be your honest and kindest self towards you and others. Kindness and honesty is much more attractive than looks. Opportunity will eventually present itself and well... Love finds a way :)