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I have social anxiety and never been in a relationship and find it very difficult as an average looking dude to meet women. I get bad anxiety when trying to approach a girl I like or find attractive so avoid it. I’m still working on myself so I know that needs to come first. Just looking to see what others did to find a girlfriend with similar difficulties.

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[–] Mr_Fish@lemmy.world 59 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Biggest tip: don't look for a girlfriend, look for friends. Find something you enjoy doing that can be done with other people, and just make friends through that. Eventually you'll like one of your female friends enough to want to ask her out, and be comfortable enough around her to not be worried about rejection

I know you've likely heard this before, but it's the best way to find a good partner. I met my fiance through my church young adults group, and we were friends for years before starting dating, now we're getting married this January.

[–] kelpie_returns@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago

Beat me to it! This is the way.