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i don't get it
The joke is that you'd think the reactions would be switched because getting called pretty is generally the nice thing and there dishwasher comment is usually meant as a sexist jab. But there's a phenomenon among trans people in general but in this case among trans women in particular where especially early on in transition they tend to get very happy at experiencing the garden variety sexism that's usually reserved for their aligned gender because it means the other people are seeing them as that gender rather than their agab and treating them as such.
yeah i don't call women dishwashers as they aren't a mechanical device.
Good for you? Again, talk to basically any trans woman who has been transitioning for a while and almost all of them have an Ew-phoria story they can tell you where they were a wild Gender Affirming Sexism appeared. Hell, I know several that regularly deploy Tactical Misogyny™ in their own self-deprecating humor because it's gender-affirming.
Humans are fucking weird little gremlin beasts.
uh ok
A dishwasher could also be a person who washes dishes.
And since they're in the kitchen they get called Chef. It's about respect.
Yeah, we know. The whole point of this post is that there's a thing with early transitioned trans women where they kinda enjoy insults for women because that means that the rude person saw them as a woman.
Ewphoria, meaning yes, you shouldn't say that, but also fuck yes, you though I was a woman so I pass that's awesome.