When I was doing the whole poly thing I was hanging out with a lot of self identified queer / kinky people. Among other things.

The first thing they'd always ask me is how I identified. And I'd always respond: I don't.

First of all it's no one's business who I choose to fuck unless I want to fuck them, and I always found it exceedingly cringy that people would make this their whole personality.

Secondly this shit just others people.all the labels just creates these homogenous bubbles of people that all just engage in masturbatory groupthink, and so many of them have almost no dealings at all with anyone who doesn't share their labels.

Fuck me , fuck women, be a man, be a woman, do whatever the fuck you want as long as it's consensual. But DO it, BE it. Accepting people who are in anyway not the norm should also mean accepting people who ARE, and you're not being inclusive if you don't include anyone who isn't like you.