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That makes sense. I figured on height I just couldn't really ever be selective, I'm around the average height of men in my country, and tall guys seem to favor short women, and short guys usually seem to want women shorter than them, so have just always ended up with guys around my height with a couple of outliers (two legit short guys, two really tall). So as I am used to being around guys my height that is what my mind perceives as the space to find attractive guys.
Really haven't ever pursued a guy for his looks and don't think I personally am in the turning heads level of attractive, wasn't ever mainstream majority attractive anyway, though averagely good looking.
That's a misunderstanding that everyone keeps assuming. But because it's so prevalent, people keep making the assumption about others.
If you're into a short guy, don't just assume he's not into you just because you're taller. He might be into you but assume you're not into him for the same reason.
Be into whoever you're into, just don't press it if they're not interested.
That kind of circles back to what I said about especially attractive people caring less about looks. They have the confidence to not give a fuck and just shoot their shot without ruling themselves out first.
Most people's problem is just their own fear of rejection, doesn't matter what gender.