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Why are you assuming that "single mother" is a bad thing? Thats pretty fucking weird.
It's because of fucking Reagan. He's the dipshit who coined the term welfare Queen. Which painted a picture of single mothers that both Republicans and Democrats have held in their minds for the last 40 fucking years.
Liked but gentle criticism, we have been shaming single mothers for millennia. Even religious texts had to spell out that they're just women with kids, not leprosy victims. Reagan just modernized the stereotype that if you were black it was automatically worse for everyone else.
So? When I hear "Single mother" I imagine a famliy with only a mother. thats it.
You also can't assume why the father is out of the picture. Sometimes, the father could be falsely imprisoned or even passed away.
Also also, why focus on the absentee instead of the person with the potential problem? Help first, blame later if necessary.
My first thought too. I mean it is true society has a fucked up stigma about single mothers, but the blame lies with society not the term single mother.
On the flip side you hear single father, and society's immediate response is "aww, that brave man!" That is not to say being a single dad doesn't actually come with its own set of weird societal day to day problems and prejudices, but the broad surface level response to the terms "single dad" vs "single mom" certainly seems to trend towards "what an upstanding man" vs "what an irresponsible ho."
Society is so fucking weird about present fathers! Taking the kids to the park "oh where's mommy right now?" Handling a tantrum from the youngest while the oldest is asking for something "oh I see daddy's on parent duty!"
I just want to parent my kids man, you don't have to make it weird! Of course that's also not addressing the subset of people who are convinced that the only men who want anything to do with kids must be pedophiles and couldn't possibly just be present fathers
Thank you! Glad to see I'm not the only one in between all these comments praising this nonsense.