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25-30 living with a flatmate, seeing friends and being sociable & fun all the time, probably 6 days a week on average.
In my 30s, living alone, having a longer commute and more responsible job, still made the effort to see different friends, with something bigger (dinner or game night) once a week. So seeing folks 3 / 7 days.
40s moved with partner to a different country. So now it's seeing friends 4 times a year when I go home, and another 2 or 3 times when they come visit. Definitely less than I'm happy with, and sometimes it's a source of frustration, but it's mostly OK. It's nice having the different experience of having a friend stay for a week, feels a little like being a teen when friends would sleep over.
I need to improve my language skills so I can spend time with my partners friends here. But because of demands of life, work, renovations, etc I think that even if my friends lived around, it would be closer to once/twice a week. Also, it's worth noting that as well as having lots of good friends who enjoy spending time with each other, I'm lucky to have lots of friends without kids or busy careers. One of my closest friends has both those things, and we really struggle to even fit a videocall in. But my autistic crafter buddy is good for a chat and a cup of tea anytime.