Looking for:
- no misogynists (so dbzer0 is out)
- no libertarians, no marxist lenninsts, no tankies, no rightwingers
- people who understand climate change is real
- leftists including anarchists, social democrats, democratic socialists, communists, etc are great
I picked world bc I was told it would have the most activity. Since joining Lemmy I have been repeatedly harassed by men on this instance, threatened with murder and rape by users including open Nazis (this was also happening on Reddit), and permabanned for being a woman, for being a feminist, and for not breaking any rules and posting factual news sources. Would like a better instance.
Have been considering solarpunk Lemmy but willing to consider other instances, just not sure
Eta: I'm looking for a recommendation of an instance, not your personal opinion on my experiences or feelings. If you are not going to give me the name of an instance you'd recommend, don't comment.
Here’s an article on tone policing: https://www.housing.wisc.edu/2023/12/inclusive-language-series-tone-policing-2/
• You need to recognize the indicators of tone policing, such as telling someone to calm down or to lower their tone for their message to be better received.
• Understand that various levels of emotions will often be expressed, especially during political or hot topic conversations.
• To refrain from invalidating other people’s feelings, try self-reflecting on your desire to invalidate their emotions and think about if this is due to your own discomfort.
• Tone policing must stop, especially when engaging in conversations regarding experiences with discrimination, oppression, and racism.
Here’s an article on hysteria: https://www.bps.org.uk/psychologist/hysteria-historical-mirror-misogyny-medicine
During the early 20th century, women were thought to be unfit for politics as their biology made them prone to hysteria. The suffrage movement became linked to hysteria and mental disorder, due to propaganda from the press and the government (Iglikowski-Broad, 2018). Attempts at militancy in their pursuit for equality were branded as hysteria by anti-suffrage supporters, demonstrating how use of mental health could be used to belittle the efforts of the women at the time (Thompson, 2016).
Eta 2:
This user previously said very misogynistic things to me. They are now spam posting in here, bringing up rape and sexual harassment in a conversation where it was never mentioned by me, (so why is their mind jumping to THOSE words and why are they saying them?), tagged by another user who has also taken screenshots and posted images of me in other instances, resulting in harassment of me. This is what I mean when I say it's a boys' club and you all don't cultivate a culture worth being around.
One thing I didn't want to be around was men covertly and overtly threatening rape. Why can't that be respected?
Eta 3:
Here, since people are claiming Lemmy is a bastion of women's rights and feminism, a list of the shit I have read with my own eyeballs:
https://lemmy.world/post/18418589/11677815
https://lemmy.world/post/18874743/11908818
https://lemmy.world/post/18874743/11897056
https://lemmy.world/post/19955762/12467131
https://lemmy.world/post/18885944/11914214
https://lemmy.world/post/18885944/11953701
https://lemmy.world/post/18885944/11948206
https://lemmy.world/post/18418589/11692679
https://lemmy.world/post/18418589/11697513
https://lemmy.world/post/18941154/11952571
https://lemmy.world/post/18941154/11955324
https://lemmy.world/post/18941154/11956772
https://lemmy.world/post/15236868/9990734
https://lemmy.world/post/19163039/12046901
https://lemmy.world/post/19163039/12059630
https://lemmy.world/post/19163039/12045644
https://lemmy.world/post/18173994/11513002
https://lemmy.world/post/18537428/11752735
https://lemmy.world/post/18537428/11769838
https://lemmy.world/post/18633431/11766518
I don't actually care about censoring like that, I think most communities, if they speak up enough individually, create their own culture that is self enforcing as new people learn their roles. This is supported ny how users on different subreddits will adopt different cultures automatically without even knowing the rules. In the earlier days, this was when mods would simply DM you or comment to you to ask you to change your comment and explain why. There was a lot more grace and gentle enforcement/explanations rather than strict bans or complete removals, which helped cultire form as a lot of times mods would help with word choice.
Funny enough, reminds me of an adhd subreddit where the rule was that you couldn't use the word "you" at all, because people with ADHD often have demand hypersensitivity triggered by the use of "you." And no exceptions allowed because that's confusing for English 2nd language speakers. They were always demanding edits lol
Even without all that, most people can pick up on culture just by the reactions of the users.
I am just looking for a space that has attracted like, queer anarchist scientists who like to talk also about politics, philosophy, economics, and understand trading stocks and how marketing and the news moves stocks. It's a simple request (jk)