Looking for:
- no misogynists (so dbzer0 is out)
- no libertarians, no marxist lenninsts, no tankies, no rightwingers
- people who understand climate change is real
- leftists including anarchists, social democrats, democratic socialists, communists, etc are great
I picked world bc I was told it would have the most activity. Since joining Lemmy I have been repeatedly harassed by men on this instance, threatened with murder and rape by users including open Nazis (this was also happening on Reddit), and permabanned for being a woman, for being a feminist, and for not breaking any rules and posting factual news sources. Would like a better instance.
Have been considering solarpunk Lemmy but willing to consider other instances, just not sure
Eta: I'm looking for a recommendation of an instance, not your personal opinion on my experiences or feelings. If you are not going to give me the name of an instance you'd recommend, don't comment.
Here’s an article on tone policing: https://www.housing.wisc.edu/2023/12/inclusive-language-series-tone-policing-2/
• You need to recognize the indicators of tone policing, such as telling someone to calm down or to lower their tone for their message to be better received.
• Understand that various levels of emotions will often be expressed, especially during political or hot topic conversations.
• To refrain from invalidating other people’s feelings, try self-reflecting on your desire to invalidate their emotions and think about if this is due to your own discomfort.
• Tone policing must stop, especially when engaging in conversations regarding experiences with discrimination, oppression, and racism.
Here’s an article on hysteria: https://www.bps.org.uk/psychologist/hysteria-historical-mirror-misogyny-medicine
During the early 20th century, women were thought to be unfit for politics as their biology made them prone to hysteria. The suffrage movement became linked to hysteria and mental disorder, due to propaganda from the press and the government (Iglikowski-Broad, 2018). Attempts at militancy in their pursuit for equality were branded as hysteria by anti-suffrage supporters, demonstrating how use of mental health could be used to belittle the efforts of the women at the time (Thompson, 2016).
Eta 2:
This user previously said very misogynistic things to me. They are now spam posting in here, bringing up rape and sexual harassment in a conversation where it was never mentioned by me, (so why is their mind jumping to THOSE words and why are they saying them?), tagged by another user who has also taken screenshots and posted images of me in other instances, resulting in harassment of me. This is what I mean when I say it's a boys' club and you all don't cultivate a culture worth being around.
One thing I didn't want to be around was men covertly and overtly threatening rape. Why can't that be respected?
Eta 3:
Here, since people are claiming Lemmy is a bastion of women's rights and feminism, a list of the shit I have read with my own eyeballs:
https://lemmy.world/post/18418589/11677815
https://lemmy.world/post/18874743/11908818
https://lemmy.world/post/18874743/11897056
https://lemmy.world/post/21644699/13284141
https://lemmy.world/post/21644699/13281744
https://lemmy.world/post/21644699/13279402
https://lemmy.world/post/21644699/13279402
https://lemmy.world/post/21644699/13273356
https://lemmy.world/post/21644699/13305826
https://lemmy.world/post/21719864/13314587
https://lemmy.world/post/19955762/12467131
https://lemmy.world/post/21587225/13261160
https://lemmy.world/post/18885944/11914214
https://lemmy.world/post/18885944/11953701
https://lemmy.world/post/18885944/11948206
https://lemmy.world/post/18418589/11692679
https://lemmy.world/post/18418589/11697513
https://lemmy.world/post/18941154/11952571
https://lemmy.world/post/18941154/11955324
https://lemmy.world/post/18941154/11956772
https://lemmy.world/post/15236868/9990734
https://lemmy.world/post/19163039/12046901
https://lemmy.world/post/19163039/12059630
https://lemmy.world/post/19163039/12045644
https://lemmy.world/post/18173994/11513002
https://lemmy.world/post/18537428/11752735
https://lemmy.world/post/18537428/11769838
https://lemmy.world/post/18633431/11766518
This, see below, he says they have a screengrab of my comments.
Please understand completely that misogyny IS gender fascism. I do not give a FUCK about being palatable to ANY fascists. Have you smelled the blood of a woman giving birth? Do you understand what that kind of slavery is like? Do you understand what has been at stake for your mother and every woman for months? Or are you blind and numb to it because it doesn't involve you?
This sexist rhetoric online and elsewhere has been an issue since Gamergate, it's pusged by massive 5tth gen warfare networks with MINIMAL pushback, and women were told to pipe down and it's the boys club - and now abortion rights have been taken away and they are seriously trying to take away the right to vote, the right to divorce, the right to beat and rape your wife (spousal rape was still legal in the 90s). Me insulting people like this is like me insulting blatant genocidal Nazis - which I've also done and received raoe and death threats for... because they are all fascists.
Some of us have to stand for something and say something. The reason they squirm and complain is because it works.
Recommended documentaries (trigger warning):