It's true. They think we're boring, we think they're boring. I remember dating a definitely NT person and was baffled that they never wanted to do deep dives on any topics with me.

Who wouldn't want to spend all weekend with their partner learning about the history of weaving and how various textile related machinery works, then cap it off by marathon playing Loom in robes?! Weirdos.

[–] IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 14 points 10 hours ago (3 children)

my NT ex said that me talking about my interest is abuse, yet she has no trouble abusing me till suicide.

[–] pineapplelover@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

Idk if I'm ND or not because I can't just info dump for 30 min. I'm just a boring guy that has a lot of interests but not enough knowledge in one specific subject about anything, I need some back and forth to keep conversation alive.

[–] P00ptart@lemmy.world 4 points 6 hours ago

This is why I can't date people who talk too much. They go on a 20 minute monologue and after I try several times to add input, and then they keep going, I get frustrated that I couldn't say anything, and now the topic is changing so I'll come off looking like I wasn't listening to the whole thing so now I'm falling behind on what they're talking, I catch up and find something relevant to say if they ever stop talking, but they don't, so I lose interest and start thinking about something else. But after my train of thought hits a few stops and they're still fucking talking and then I'm internally screaming at them to SHUT THE FUCK UP! And I Invision either my sudden brutal death or theirs.

[–] SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

If I may be blunt, I don't think that's because your ex is NT. It sounds like your ex is just an abusive asshole. I'm sorry you had to deal with their abuse.

[–] IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 6 points 9 hours ago (2 children)

honestly, I'm sorry for traumadumping, took some gummies and I'm not really me.

from now on I'll aim to date neurodiverse people instead, we are more fun anyways.

[–] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 3 points 4 hours ago

aim to date neurodiverse people instead, we are more fun anyways.

I can offer little better advice. Similarly, find someone whose baggage complements yours, so you can have a matching set.

[–] SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 8 hours ago

No apology necessary, I didn't even think of it as trauma dumping. Sometimes things just come up and I think that's okay.

Enjoy your gummies!