Romantic relationships aren’t for everyone such as people who are aromantic but if you crave romantic relationships and are only holding them off because you might give others grief then you should seek therapy. I don’t mean that in a “you are crazy talk to a therapist way” but in a hopefully you can talk through that laundry list with a professional and they can give you insight on how to proceed.

You shouldn’t tiptoe through life saying “I don’t deserve happiness” because we all do and a mental health professional can hopefully help show you how for your specific situation

[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

If therapy were an option, I would have taken it by now. Unfortunately, such things are not available to me. At least, not therapists that are willing to take me on. Primarily due to the fact that I have had therapists in the past openly say that they are not qualified to handle my case. So I've just given up. Some people just aren't meant to be happy. So now I guide others to a treasure I may never possess.

Anyway, time for WILTY and sleep. Have a good night.

[–] Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 7 hours ago

It took me 4 years and 6 therapists to find the right one. My therapist has adhd, I love her.

Take a break, but don't give up on helping yourself