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I have this online female friend and we have been friends for almost 4 years now. We met in an online game. She's the one who asked my social media ID so we can play together. And she seems to have done to a lot of people as well. So she was kinda collecting a lot of friends. Have seen people get nto her lobbies and say "Thank you so much for listening to me the other day," "You are really a kind person" and so on. There was this one guy used to address her as his "bi*ch". At this I thought they were a couple but apparently they met on the game and known eachother for only a few months and were just friends.

She used to text me first whenever she was about to play. And used to check on me if I hadn't appeared on the game for a week or two.

Later we got close. I stopped gaming but she still plays other games. But after I got close, she stopped texting me first. Only would chat with me if I texted her first. I asked her why she never texts me about anything. She goes "Uhh I am not that type to text people first" "I never do that to anyone" "I think you're just busy" and so on.

So all this weird behaviour had me thinking why she is doing all this? What are her motives? What kind of person is she?

I did ask her these questions many times but only got vague answers. She also never gives anything about her other online friends and usually becomes defensive when I bring them up in a conversation.

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[–] hisao@ani.social 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

one of those females that once they have your attention they play hard to get

Might be a thing, but your choice of words is bold, to say the least. I wish there was a way to tell if they "want to be chased" or are sincerely uninterested, because I really don't want to bother people who dislike me, and the way you say it ("chase") adds a bit of predatory vibe to it, which, if everyone is interested, can be hot actually, but if not, it multiplies the creepiness.