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Doesn't help that people judge 2 year old parents when their child is crying. Not like they could hold a debate with someone who can not comprehend the concept of self control.
2 year olds should really not be parents.
No, but you can remove them from the venue if it doesn't stop crying, unless you're on a plane.
That just reinforces their behavior and they keep doing it. If they dont want to go to the grocery store or what ever, they cry, they go. They learn crying gets them what they want and they become spoiled brats. Tantrums and crying are growth opportunities some times, and not to mention, other times the parent needs to be there and they dont have other child care options.
Sorry to inconvenience you
How do you think they're going to learn to behave in public if they're just cooped up 24/7? People being annoying and noisy is just a part of existing as a human being. We shouldn't stunt the growth of entire fucking generations just because they make you uncomfortable.
Removing from the venue changes the setting and makes it easier to talk to the child about what they were doing, and even more likely address whatever the child had going on. Removing them from the setting temporarily makes parenting easier and benefits everyone else.
Source: am parent and was a child at one point
Thats not w what my comment said at all. Why are you arguing in bad faith?
My parents made tons of mistakes, but the word shh being acknowledged as existing wasn't one of them.
People love to act like children are always so difficult they cannot be reasoned with, but shushing isn't actually trauma. And it works very often. Guess what, everywhere I go people have horribly behaved dogs while mine is an angel in comparison. Why? Because I didn't just let them do whatever whenever. I made small corrections consistently. And my dog seems quite happy. I'm sure you'll get all mad that I'm "comparing children and animals" but honestly you can see the same kinds of boundary testing and reactions from both so I think it's fair.
They learn how to behave because when they behave inappropriately, they are punished. No one here is opposed to a charming little kid wandering around and doing cute shit. They are opposed to kids throwing 45 minute long temper tantrums because the italian restaurant doesn't have chicken nuggets. You can practice this feedback cycle both at home and in public (in public, of course, remove the kid from the situation where they are annoying everyone first).
My reading speed seriosly lags behind my decision making timeeeeeeeeeeeeees
For real, clearly they never had to explain to a 4 year old why they could not run around with crayons stuffed in their nose.
People also don't get how different children are and how much neuro diversity is out there. Comments below say to remove the child from the venue or keep them at home. It's been years and I've hardly left the house for social enjoyment. My kid finally gets excited about going to the cinema, so we go,and he ends up having difficulty regulating himself there......I guess I better scoop him up and fuck off back to the cave we crawled out of.
Managing children is difficult, and if a child is dedicated to their course of action, then you can't win. You can never win a battle of wills against a young child. A child has infinite energy, infinite time and a single minded focus. They've got nowhere else to be nothing better to do.
As one of those neurodivergent kids, my mom explicitly laid all the blame on me whenever she felt embarrassed in public. I was removed from activities countless times without any clear understanding of why - all I knew was I wasn't allowed to do fun things. There was no accommodation for sensory issues, no space provided for me to self-regulate, no understanding that I was having a difficult time and needed support - just labels thrown at me for "being difficult", as if by merely existing, I was a problem.
Every child deserves to participate in enriching activities regardless of their neurotype. By removing neurodiverse kids (and not returning after they calm down) or outright keeping them away from such events, they may internalize the idea that who they are is not acceptable. Parents, there are resources available today that didn't exist in the 90s. There is no reason to raise your neurodiverse kid the way we used to be raised. If you don't know what to do with your kid and you haven't already done so, get help. Please.
100%.
We have a ND kid who has the standard AuDHD diagnosis, and we do our best to allow them to participate in activities, and they're getting a lot better at self regulation since we've been able to get them into therapy/OT/various other things that I did t get a chance to have when I was that young.
It's hard, but just stopping and explaining things to kids goes so far, even if they can't internalize it in the moment, those lessons build up and give them the base they need to participate in a world that has no empathy for the ND.
Agree completely. That's what people don't see when they're being judgemental and demand that a child "be sorted and quietened now". I need time to help my kid self-regulate and adjust and be supported in the environment......but I need the community's support in tolerating a "loud and disruptive" child for a moment.
I was always told that I’d be more charitable about this kind of thing once I had kids.
No idea where anyone got that idea. After becoming a parent I’m WAY more judgy about bad parenting.
This is the unfortunate truth. If someone has "easier" children they become even more judgemental of "difficult" children. They take it as a skill issue as if their expert parenting was all that mattered and thus other parents are failures.
If you had that "difficult" child with the set of social circumstances as that family, then you might have struggled too. Withhold that judgement. Most are trying their best. Sometimes you might even see me "doing nothing" about my out of control child.....but that's because I'm trying to regulate myself before I lose my shit; just need a moment.
I don’t judge difficult children, I judge crappy parenting. The kids are fine.
If they are doing something really disruptive like crying for extended periods of time just remove them from the setting for long enough to regulate themselves and go back in. Keeping them in a setting where they can't regulate themselves for extended periods of time is counterproductive. I stepped out into the hall with my klddo to get away from the loud noise and bright screen so she could get herself under control a lot of times, and eventually she figured out how to regulate herself in those same situations.
Now if people are shitty because the kiddo is doing regular kid things or because they were disruptive for a short period of time then they can go eat a turd.
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Depends on their age and how you define win.
I don't even know who does it worse.
People who have absolutely zero experience with children judging
Or the other parents who had a child that gave them no issues from birth. 'Just politely ask them' and they will be good. It 'worked for me'.
Do you think “politely asking” is how you raise children that give you no issues?
It’s not hard to lead by example and to have important discussions with your kids. Kids understand until you show them they have the option not to.