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Being a parent is hard af
If every single one of your ancestors did something and so did everyone else’s on a planet of 8 billion, the thing is not that hard.
Being a good one is.
I would argue that being a bad one even has its challenges.
Doesn't help that people judge 2 year old parents when their child is crying. Not like they could hold a debate with someone who can not comprehend the concept of self control.
2 year olds should really not be parents.
No, but you can remove them from the venue if it doesn't stop crying, unless you're on a plane.
That just reinforces their behavior and they keep doing it. If they dont want to go to the grocery store or what ever, they cry, they go. They learn crying gets them what they want and they become spoiled brats. Tantrums and crying are growth opportunities some times, and not to mention, other times the parent needs to be there and they dont have other child care options.
Sorry to inconvenience you
For real, clearly they never had to explain to a 4 year old why they could not run around with crayons stuffed in their nose.
People also don't get how different children are and how much neuro diversity is out there. Comments below say to remove the child from the venue or keep them at home. It's been years and I've hardly left the house for social enjoyment. My kid finally gets excited about going to the cinema, so we go,and he ends up having difficulty regulating himself there......I guess I better scoop him up and fuck off back to the cave we crawled out of.
Managing children is difficult, and if a child is dedicated to their course of action, then you can't win. You can never win a battle of wills against a young child. A child has infinite energy, infinite time and a single minded focus. They've got nowhere else to be nothing better to do.
As one of those neurodivergent kids, my mom explicitly laid all the blame on me whenever she felt embarrassed in public. I was removed from activities countless times without any clear understanding of why - all I knew was I wasn't allowed to do fun things. There was no accommodation for sensory issues, no space provided for me to self-regulate, no understanding that I was having a difficult time and needed support - just labels thrown at me for "being difficult", as if by merely existing, I was a problem.
Every child deserves to participate in enriching activities regardless of their neurotype. By removing neurodiverse kids (and not returning after they calm down) or outright keeping them away from such events, they may internalize the idea that who they are is not acceptable. Parents, there are resources available today that didn't exist in the 90s. There is no reason to raise your neurodiverse kid the way we used to be raised. If you don't know what to do with your kid and you haven't already done so, get help. Please.
100%.
We have a ND kid who has the standard AuDHD diagnosis, and we do our best to allow them to participate in activities, and they're getting a lot better at self regulation since we've been able to get them into therapy/OT/various other things that I did t get a chance to have when I was that young.
It's hard, but just stopping and explaining things to kids goes so far, even if they can't internalize it in the moment, those lessons build up and give them the base they need to participate in a world that has no empathy for the ND.
I was always told that I’d be more charitable about this kind of thing once I had kids.
No idea where anyone got that idea. After becoming a parent I’m WAY more judgy about bad parenting.
If they are doing something really disruptive like crying for extended periods of time just remove them from the setting for long enough to regulate themselves and go back in. Keeping them in a setting where they can't regulate themselves for extended periods of time is counterproductive. I stepped out into the hall with my klddo to get away from the loud noise and bright screen so she could get herself under control a lot of times, and eventually she figured out how to regulate herself in those same situations.
Now if people are shitty because the kiddo is doing regular kid things or because they were disruptive for a short period of time then they can go eat a turd.
smh
Depends on their age and how you define win.
I don't even know who does it worse.
People who have absolutely zero experience with children judging
Or the other parents who had a child that gave them no issues from birth. 'Just politely ask them' and they will be good. It 'worked for me'.
Do you think “politely asking” is how you raise children that give you no issues?
It’s not hard to lead by example and to have important discussions with your kids. Kids understand until you show them they have the option not to.
I understand but also not my problem? If you are too tired to deal with your children maybe keep them at home. If you are going to bring a child to a public place you got to be prepare and willing to educate them. Your children are special bundles of joy for You, and you only. People are not ok in having to deal with an unhinged savage child because parenting is hard. People take the "it takes a village" wrong. Not everyone you see is on your village.
Speaking as a parent, you are correct.
Those snotrags are in charge of funding our retirements excuse me!
What retirement?
I'll be long dead before retirement as they keep raising retirement age far beyond what most people in my family have lived.
They won't, the go on your nerves now and they won't fund your retirement.
They're mad because you're right and they have to deal with screaming brats all day because they chose to and you didn't.
It's weird that it's completely necessary for every single person to make that choice! Also, the kind of people that actually parent and don't just unleash their loud, hyperactive child on strangers don't get memes made about them.
Source: I was a loud, hyperactive child, but I was taught respect, consideration, and made to follow rules.
Tell me you're not a parent without telling me you're not a parent....
Let me know when you can participate in a genuine conversation without exclusively regurgitating tiktok phrases!