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IVF and surrogacy should be illegal. they are a huge drain on resources, typically only benefit the wealthy. And the solution is incredibly straightforward. Strong social safety net, strong parental benefits andleave options. Encourage family to start in their 20s early 30s latest.
what about the people who want to have children but can't because of health reasons?
also right
if I was in charge, if you wanted a family and you couldn’t have it on your own, you’d have to adopt. I know it’s not the solution for everyone, but the inequality that IVF and surrogacy create along with the huge drain on resources both scientific and monetary. I think society would be better off if we got to the root causes of infertility issuesand tried to address them (whether they be environmental or genetic), but the baby making in industry needs to stop.
in my country, Poland, there's a government programme to which you can sign up and if you meet some criteria, you get a full refund of the costs of the whole IVF procedure. Surrogacy is banned. Do you think that's a reasonable solution or do you still think that the amount of resources consumed by IVF alone makes it not worth it?
I’m not sure. that is a very good question. I wonder how much that’s costing your government to fund, I wonder if those doctors were oncologists or focusing on some other preventable disease, their time would better serve society. I know every country right now is trying to reverse population decline, I know some countries are offering money or tax incentives. Others are doing what you mentioned. And none of it is working to stem the decline. So I think IVF solves a personal problem, but I don’t think itsolves a societal problem regarding population decline.
so I guess no I don’t think it’s worth it.
Left
of course, left is the only way.
Some people can't have kids, and some couples are gay
Adoption