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I understand Hi and inquisitive questions, but a compliment as danger?
The sentence is a strong indication that the complimenting person wants to do some small talk.
And is starting with a personal remark commenting on one's appearance.
I am a rather introvert person with some additional slight social anxiety issues.
Wouldn't directly interpret it as "danger", but would definitely get uncomfortable and depending on how good I know the person also anxious.
I hate it when people do not honour the simple human courtesy of pretending we are all invisible. Strangers should not even allow it to be known that they are aware I have an appearance to begin with. I was out running today looking absolutely wretched, and some woman who could not have been more than five years older than me addressed me as "honey!" I should have called her "ma'am" but I was too chagrined. I'm not sure that's related but it bothers me on the same level.
Hi. with a period feels so weird lol
I'm not great at telling sincerity from sarcasm and was bullied in school for my appearance, so being complimented out-of-the-blue initially registers as a threat for me until my thinking brain can catch up
Complements are a big warning that someone is trying to manipulate my emotions