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[–] klemptor@startrek.website 7 points 2 days ago (2 children)

What on earth.

[–] mika_mika@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I was gonna have my own qualms with this post until I read this guy's comment and now I'm just gonna leave that be. Don't wanna be grouped in with that lot.

[–] quacky@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

It it is possible to share your opinion w/o agreeing with what i said. This is not a 2 party system.

[–] quacky@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

This type of comment is like the friend who makes everything awkward https://youtu.be/EnBdGTX3vZc

[–] klemptor@startrek.website 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

It's not, but if you actually need a rebuttal, let's go:

- insecure pose is related to its brethren of other insecure poses, such as the peace sign ✌️😉✌️, tongue sticking out😜, duck lips😙

What about this pose is in any way insecure? She is confidently giving the finger to those who don't respect consent.

- there is this weird lust for such poses

This is your own opinion and not substantiated by anything here as far as I can see.

- the brand clothing indicating commodity fetishism aka lust

There's nothing wrong with people liking brand-name clothes. You personally may have a beef with it but calling it 'lust' is not justified by anything in the image.

- the coffee indicating lack of self control and gluttony/lust aka addiction

Again with the 'lust'? Coffee is such a normal thing. There's nothing here to indicate she's addicted, or a glutton, or in any way out of control. You're reading an insane amount into this simple drawing.

- expectation for others to read your mind when speaking indirectly, vaguely, or with innuendo

It's not an expectation. She's spelling out exactly the ways in which people try to ignore a woman's lack of consent.

- closed-mindedness to the world of opportinity

Opportunity to what, have sex she doesn't want to have? Are you serious right now?

- the sublte implication of superiority

Substantiate this please, because again, there's nothing in the image supporting this claim.

- the callous disregard for the other person

You mean the person who's callously disregarding her by ignoring the very clear lack of consent? Because that's the type of person this image is aimed at.

- the lack of empathy

Same comment as above. Who exactly does she owe empathy?

- the excessive self-conciet and pride in oneself

Again, totally unsubstantiated in the image. She's allowed to be proud of herself just like anybody else, but there's nothing excessive here.

You've read a lot of nonsense into this image. Maybe have a think about why that is.

[–] quacky@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

It seems like you're in denial. To respond for the audience...

  • body language, such as poses, can indicate insecurity. The middle finger is an example of overcompensation as in acting intimidating or cool because deep down they feel vulnerable, anxious, fearful, etc.
  • "Lust is an intense desire for something. Lust can take any form such as the lust for sexual activity, money, or power; but it can also take such mundane forms as the lust for food or the lust for redolence." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lust
  • According to this definition of lust, there is clearly a lust, or intense desire, for the coffee for example. There is also lust or desire for "looking cool" as evident by the fashion & pose. Also, the desire for other people to change is a lust for power. Power is defined as ability to influence others. The image self-evidently is an attempt to influence others.
  • There are many harmful consequences with brand-name clothes including but not limited to environmental damage, psychological damage, and economic harm for self and others. This is empirical, not opinion -- https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0959652624036813 , https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1740144525001068
  • Negative (i.e., "no" and rejection) and aggressive body language are anti-social behaviors that implicitly assert superiority. "[Contemptuous people] are true specialists in looking you up and down, generally with a slight gesture of rejection, disgust and superiority drawn on their faces. They are real experts in making you feel bad. Making you believe that you are inferior, that you are not worth enough or that your vocation is failure." https://psychology-spot.com/contemptuous-people-ways-to-despise/
  • Everyone is owed empathy. All sentient beings are deserving of compassion.
  • Pride is as defining characteristic of narcissism. "Narcissism is characterized by a grandiose sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy for others, a need for excessive admiration, and the belief that one is unique and deserving of special treatment."
  • The woman in this picture is exhibiting traits of narcissism by not having empathy for others and the grandiose sense of self-importance (aka pride) in acting superior to others with the aggressive (middle finger), dressing "cool" and "high-status" aka superior (fashion clothes, posturing), and negative behavior (no, rejection, the arrogance in believing one knows more than others). https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/narcissism