If you find one, you find a group cos like attracts attracts like.
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I was in the process of writing a long response that almost completely mirrored your top 2.
I added a clustering or self-filtering problem, basically rapists likely don’t have a lot of friends so that’s why guys would necessarily know a rapist.
And I hadn’t even considered your last point but it is indeed a valid one, although it really shouldn’t be all that different.
It definitely shouldn't, but out there is a man who thinks torturing consent out of someone isn't rape, and a woman who thinks refusing to marry after sex is rape.
Between those two extremes (and beyond them!) is every shade of definition, and the lines vary by nation and culture. This is not a statement condoning this, it is a sad one of fact.
(Edit, even in this very thread is someone who thinks rape is defined by not agreeing with them!)