If you find one, you find a group cos like attracts attracts like.
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It bothers me that anyone pointing to the majority of men who are not rapists, is getting branded as a rape apologist.
As a guy, I can say with certainty that I've never been involved in, nor known about anyone who was the perpetrator of rape.
I firmly believe that the perpetrators, specifically the male perpetrators of rape, if they tell anyone, they say it as a regular sexual encounter. Ladies, we don't go into details taking about who did what in the bedroom. The most I've ever heard from any guy about their sexual exploits, is that they happened "I banged her" (or similar), and sometimes a quip about the experience or the person, eg: "it was great" or "she's a freak (in bed)" or similar.
The reason we don't know that the people we know are rapists, is because they're not coming out and telling us about it. I promise, if they did, they wouldn't be free for long. They'd either end up in jail, or beaten bloody by the majority of us (or worse).
Generally we just don't say much about what happens in the bedroom, to eachother.
It bothers me that anyone has ould bother to point out not all men are rapists. We aren't talking about or to you. Why do you feel the need to say something that everyone knows?
Its because on some level, these people know that people like them have done bad shit and they want to defend themselves.
It ain't about you dickhead.
But it is. Because I see time and time again in the comments here that if I'm male, I'm either an apologist, or a rapist. This thread has disenfranchised an entire gender.
I have all the empathy in the world for victims. I am not one of them, nor am I a perpetrator. I would, quite readily, turn in any person I know if they were a self admitted rapist. Moreover, I would entrap them by recording their confession, and submit it as evidence against them.
I don't wish to diminish the point made in the OP, it's important to recognize the victims of rape. The fact is, the perpetrators are not exactly bragging about raping someone, so they don't exactly stand out. If they did, they wouldn't remain a free person.
I get the point in the OP, but the comments here have been extremely toxic, branding every man who replies as either a rapist or an apologist.
It's disgusting that someone would regard an entire gender as one, or the other. Many of us don't know if we even know anyone who has committed the crime, and never thought about it beyond the fact that it's a bad thing to happen... These bystanders are now apologists?
Your victim complex is massive my guy. The reason people shit on you for saying this is because the act of saying it implies it needs to be said. You don't even read your criticism but you assume it isn't constructive because you imagine it isn't.
Once again because obviously you don't like reading: It does not fucking matter if most men aren't rapists when overwhelmingly most rapists are men and most men do not challenge rape culture. That does make most men dangerous for women. Reconcile that with your experiences.
Right now, you are an example of how men make themselves a problem by not even considering they're wrong because they're insecure about being a man. Nobody is fucking saying men don't get victimized, they are correctly identifying that nearly 100% of cases of sexual violence is directed at women and the vast majority of men are complacent in a culture that perpetuates that violence. Making it about you because you don't like the association of manhood with sexual violence is in fact detrimental to discourses that seek to acknowledge sexual violence at all.
You DENSE mother fucker.
How can you unironically write this while calling anyone else dense? This is equivalent to arguing that all fruits are apples, because all apples are fruits.
Do you sink in mercury?
That's a lie, though. You're lying. Your deep sexism against men has led you to assume a total lack of humanity and empathy in half of the world's population. You've dehumanized them so profoundly that the very act of a male contradicting your prejudice infuriates you enough to double down while calling him a "DENSE mother fucker".
For shame.