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sometimes "carry the mental load" looks like organizing and remembering the grocery list, remembering whose birthdays are when and planning gifts and cards in time, etc. - it's not just feeling burdened with emotions or emotional labor in that sense (obviously men have emotional loads, and often don't feel they can be vulnerable enough to get help - but the problem there is still patriarchy, the same problem that puts women in the position the meme talks about: men and women have a shared enemy, and it's patriarchy).
And sometimes "carrying the mental load" is being burdened by an endless emotional load from your partner, which I see (and personally experience) women unloading onto men, at minimum, an order of magnitude more often than the reverse. Are we just ignoring the load incurred by "venting"?
I don't want you to solve my problem I just want you to listen powerless to do anything about this problem that will continue to be a negative impact on your life quit judging me.
it's not about whether you want your partner to do anything about the problem or not, any person with empathy will feel hurt if their partner feels hurt. I think there simply should be a balance between venting and keeping it for yourself.