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Along with the rest of the wrongness, he's calling DID schizophrenia
tf does DID mean? i dont understand all the terminology. i just got out of a 6 year relationship im new to this
Honestly, it's what I read was the correct term when I googled multiple personality. Dissociative Identity Disorder. I just remembered schizophrenia isn't that, it's hearing voices, maybe hallucinating, being separated from reality, but you're still one you.
This, but in ironically.
The correct term is Dissociative Identity Disorder. Schizophrenia means split mind in Greek, but was never used to mean the patient acted as though they were different individuals. Just that there were other split portions of their mind interacting with the patient.
Thanks!
Well, it's like comparing all neurominorities to down syndrome. That's why I need to fuck around with the genius political system I live in all the time.
And saying people with disabilities are inherently less sexy
Eh, DID is too narrow a scope. Being multiple people isn't automatically a disorder.
Genuinely curious, when is being multiple people not a disorder (I am thinking Jason Bourne spy stuff)?
I don't know about that specifically, but autism goes from a cute quirk to a disorder around when it starts affecting your life or the life of others negatively. Not sure how you could have multiple personalities without it affecting anything negatively, though...
It's like any neurodivergent situation where certain things just take work. There's specialized apps that allow alters (personalities) to communicate and co-ordinate things like scheduling. From folks I have talked to there's a lot of masking involved where folks with DID will collaborate across different alters to try to appear to be contiguous. A lot of the time from the outside they just seem kind of forgetful in a similar way that non-DID people can be. The source of DID is often severe trauma where the different personalities are created via partitions of memory so that no singular expression of self remembers everything all at once. This allows the whole to function as each peice has functionally a job to do. It's at it's core a coping mechanism taken to an extreme but it still functions as a coping mechanism.
Often times you really don't know someone you've been around for years has it because they are scared to tell you. DID has a fair bit of stigma behind the condition.
I've known a few plural folks that seem to get on just fine. In all their cases it arose from trauma and was pretty disharmonious and confusing to begin with, but with time and awareness their alters work better together and by the time I met em I wouldn't have known if they didn't tell me. I don't know if they'd say it never affects them negatively but they certainly didn't need to be freed of it. If anything, plural identity seemed to be more of a solution than an active problem for them.
When all the alters communicate with each other and work together. Most people have 'aspects' of their personality that they only show sometimes, and we call it 'code switching'. It also happens when speaking different languages, people's personalities change, but we think that's normal. In therapy, for most people it's called 'parts work' where you recognize that a part of you feels a certain way, but not all of you, and it's OK to hold both of those feelings at the same time.
DID is usually caused by trauma that causes rifts between those aspects/personalities/alters and doesn't let them communicate with each other. That's when you start dealing with lost time, and waking up in strange places, so the real problem comes with the lack of intercommunication, aka dissociating.
It's like a road trip with friends. If you're all communicating and you say 'Hey, I'm getting tired, can someone else drive?' that's fine. You might wake up somewhere new, but you can immediately ask 'Where are we' and get caught up. But if you don't know that there are other people in the car, and think you're doing the road trip by yourself, lose days of time and suddenly wake up somewhere that may or may not be the destination you were expecting, that's a problem.
We all have parts. People with DID had their parts forcibly separated.
This tracks with what I have read about it as well, especially the languages part for someone bilingual.
For most people you don't realize you have different aspects because they work together and transition so smoothly.
I mean, when someone is able to manage a condition, it doesn't mean that don't have the condition.
I have to disagree with all this. What you describe either IS a disorder or not multiple personalities.
I have a friend with DID, but I'm not an expert. The media also portrays DID inaccurately most of the time, so it's hard to explain when there's disinformation from multiple angles. I'd recommend doing some independent research or talking to your therapist about parts works as a way to understand more.
I think a big problem with this thread is the framing, "being multiple people." There is a lot of nuance here.
I think you are right. I seem to have too restricted a definition in my mind and ended up talking at cross angles to others. This is a topic I need to do some reading about.
Maybe if they were a legit collective consciousness hivemind
Resistance is futile
When you’re a teenager faking a quirk on the internet for attention. It happens more often than you’d think.
That is not multiple personalities, though, just something most people go through.