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Huge Milestone Complete; Some Major Anxiety Washed Away! (lemmy.ca)

submitted 1 week ago by GlassHalfHopeful@lemmy.ca to c/casualconversation@piefed.social

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For many years, we've been a single vehicle family much to the confusion of family and friends. They regularly ask, "How can you survive with one car?!" I get it, but one has to do what they must and work within their means.

Where we live, there aren't viable public transportation options. And we can't afford debt (as oxymoronic as that may sound). Yes, it means lots of planning and occasionally strandings. 😬 It's hit a point where we can't make do now. sighs

I've saved and saved. I've worked 100 work weeks. A few months ago, we started searching for something dependable to buy with not so much cash. That's been no easy feat. Lots of people have tried to rip us off by hiding serious vehicle problems. It became such a significant source of stress and partnership conflict.

Now we can celebrate though! It's finally happened! 🎉🎈🎊 We have a second car! Simple, good on gas, and no major problems! A huge time drain and source of anxiety is finally able to be put behind us.

I'm so incredibly grateful. We are privileged to be in our situation and now I can finally free the mental space and energy to start focusing on all the other important things in life that I've had to table. Phew!

What about you?!

Are you currently overwhelmed with something huge? Have you recently overcome a draining task? Share with us your celebrations and let us root for you if you're still in the midst of it all.

Alright. Now it's back to triage. What's the next next major thing. 😅

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[–] AppleStrudel@reddthat.com 1 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Going into debt is a trap, you are right to be wary. I'm raised to never spend more than I have, I have seen what it can do. When you lend money, you are now on a moving treadmill, and this treadmill wouldn't care to slow down if you can't keep up, it'll eat you alive once you reach the end of the belt.

[–] GlassHalfHopeful@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yep. Debt is rarely a good idea. Even "good" debt hurts when you consider how much interest you pay on a home.

Regarding lending, I try to give instead. Lending money can cause so much heartache and it's best to presume you won't see the money again. I actually budget for this and other forms of generosity. It makes it much easier to be generous when you know you always have money set aside that you can help someone with. And when you need to go beyond that and dip into savings for them, it's still usually just better to give so you can have peace of mind.

[–] AppleStrudel@reddthat.com 2 points 1 day ago

Oh, sorry. I meant when you borrow money. Oops.

But yeah, I don't lend money either. You'll be surprised just how many tight-knitt friendships and familial relationships can end from the aftermath of just a few hundred or so.