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Is it wrong to like the attention I get from having big breasts ? (lemmy.world)

submitted 7 months ago by SparkleBooty@lemmy.world to c/womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone

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Yes, this is a serious question. I still go on reddit and often see on the r/bigboobsproblem subreddit, women complaining about the attention they receive from their chest.

Granted, I do understand where they're coming from, if you just generally as a person don't want to be oogeled at like a slice of meat, I mean, I get that. That is infact uncomfortable.

I love my chest size, they make me feel feminine and beautiful and I appreciate and enjoy the attention they bring me. Because here's the thing, we're not gunna be young forever, at some point, we'll be older, and not attractive anymore.

With that, I kinda don't understand why some women don't like idk... being beautiful or desired? Like it makes me feel good and boosts my self-esteem.

Anyway, ppl are allowed to feel any way they want. Especially when it comes to their body. I just personally don't get why a person wouldn't want the attention.

Im not talking about harassment here, there's a big difference and clearly there's a line. But any way, what do you think?

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[–] Greercase@lemmus.org 13 points 7 months ago (1 children)

It seems like you answered your own question for the most part. Generally when people complain about getting attention for their features, breast or otherwise, they're likely talking about attention that's negative or makes them uncomfortable. There will always be outliers, but I don't think people are regularly complaining about the fact they have a partner who respects them as a person and respects their entire body who just happens to find their breasts attractive. You seem to acknowledge that being viewed exclusively sexually by strangers can be uncomfortable, so I'm not sure really what else there is to it. You can feel however you like about your body and the way people look at it, but I always encourage doing the work to investigate those feelings and make sure they are truly yours and there for the right reasons. Sometimes it's nice to feel attractive, but it's important not to need external validation to know your worth. As long as you're comfortable and not in danger, you do you.

[–] SparkleBooty@lemmy.world 2 points 7 months ago

Thanks for your input !