Off My Chest
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Yes. Expecting people to go out, your way, for activities only you enjoy, is selfish and entitled.
Entitled in that it is like asking that person to Venmo you directly to pay for your chosen activity.
I could spend $30 on one meal. Or. I could eat for a week on $30. Expecting the first option for the sake of your solo personal enjoyment isn’t cool. If that’s what you like to do, that’s great. But expecting other people to overpay for food, so you can have fun, leaving them out food the rest of the week, not ok.
These guys are mad about him not visiting. And yet.
They clearly want to hang, but they also want him to pay for their expensive activities.
They want to continue living their lifestyle, just like OP. That's not necessarily selfish or entitled. It's just two incompatible ways of life. The solution is to cut ties and find people who are compatible, for both OP and his sister and her husband. Walking away in peace is always better than endless conflicts.
Talking to you is useless. I'll enjoy never seeing your account again.
They’re siblings. There is no closer genetic link on the planet. They will reliably grow old together.
If there’s abuse, sure. If not, surely things can be worked on if not worked out. In addition, maybe it’s the husband with this issue and if the sibs go solo with activities it’s fine.
Cutting ties with family for good because they can’t go out to eat is quite superficial as reasons go. Either that, or it’s coming from a place of zero conflict resilience and as such needs some therapy.
Genetic links are no substitute for empathy or understanding though. You can be twins and still end up being completely different (and incompatible) persons.