Off My Chest
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I can buy myself flowers.
What the desire is really connected to is the idea that someone would care enough about me to stop at the store while on their way home from work and pick up something small for me. Small gestures of care and affection.
It’s like how a sandwich tastes better if someone else makes it. There’s a certain aspect of “this person wanted to make me happy” that is more important than the gesture itself. I can make a sandwich myself, but there’s an aspect to the idea that they actively thought about what I would enjoy, that they made it for me to enjoy it.
Might sound like a stupid question, but - why? Why do you want to outsource something you could do yourself (Appreciating you!), something you can do much better than anyone else anyway?
Why want to have sex when you can masturbate?
I’m all about making little gifts for people I love. I’d like my energy to be matched in some way.
But is it a gift if it has to be matched or returned? Or rather a transaction?