Off My Chest
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No one can guess that you'd like random flowers. It would be very random for me if someone im dating would just show up in my doorstep without asking if i have time befor.
Completely random is probably not happening but if you tell your partner it should be possible to get a nice little supprise now and then.
I’ve had two exes that I told explicitly I’d love flowers, and never got them. Over seven years of my relationship with my ex-husband, never once.
Maybe you are my proverbial missed connection:
Every gal I've dated seriously, unprompted, I would surprise them with flowers, chocolates, charcuterie boards...
... listen to all those actually actionable, verbally dropped hints, and followed up on them...
... and not all, but almost all of them, either physically, financially, and/or emotionally abused me, and/or cheated on me (in what was ostensibly a monogamous, non polyamorous relationship).
Maybe we are now both... different sides of the same coin, kind of disappointed and tired, lol?
OP had brought up randomly showing up, I assume they meant for a planned thing like a date.