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Women only trans inclusive This is an inclusive community for all things women. Whether you're here for make up tips, feminism or just friendly chit chat, we've got you covered.

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  1. Women only… trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn’t allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (e.g. non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a women's community is a good fit for them.
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What do you all think of a WomensStuff supporters group open to all genders? (piefed.blahaj.zone)
submitted 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) by LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone to c/womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone
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Hey all! A male supporter has offered to open a community called WomensStuffSupporters that all genders can reply to. That gives men somewhere to show support that isn't here and also make here easier to moderate.

There's the option to X post from one to another, which is wouldn't want to happen automatically as some people wouldn't like that.

What do you all think of the idea? I'll leave this post up for a while before a decision is made.

Edit: you can message me if you don't want to say publicly. I won't let people know you contacted me, I'd just potentially say someone messaged saying they did/didn't want it

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[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 16 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

I mean i like the idea of support but the fact that someone wants a comm they can talk on just because one exists where they can't is a bit cheeky.

"I'll make my own women's stuff! With blackjack and hookers!"

Motive motive motive, how supportive are you if this is your response to the community? "I support wommens but they won't let me do it in the way i want so i'll go make somewhere i can"

Also why ask us instead of, idk, just doing it? Or improving existing comms? We tend to frequent those too.

That's the cynical viewpoint, anyrate. The evil troll in me asks if they can name it "knights in white satin"

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 9 points 3 days ago (1 children)

He's being respectful asking us rather than doing it and he's been clear he won't do it without our approval. He's got a solid comment history throughout Lemmy and I'm sure he's offering for the right reasons. He's thinking is it would reduce the shit here

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 7 points 3 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

really wouldn't tho. Get them all riled up and increase our attack surface

[–] ZDL@lazysoci.al 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

"I'll make my own women's stuff! With blackjack and hookers!"

Not a bad take. I'm not sure that's the actual motivation but it's close enough to the truth it's certainly worth considering.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I really don't think it's that with him, I've chatted with him and his comment history is positive. His thinking was it would reduce the shit we get here and support us. I'm sure he's offered with only good intentions

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Oh there may very much be great intentions, but unconscious bias is very much a thing.

Mentioned this to my partner, his immediate response was a face like a sucked lemon and "doesn't that defeat the purpose though?"

Doesn't it? We have a comm where we ask that men don't participate, they cracked the shits as they so often do, so now we're discussing building them a little playpen mirror so their little sookie egos can be soothed. One again we have to be the bigger adult and make room.

Why pander? I like this planet. They can get off it.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 days ago

Thanks for commenting! I understand your perspective. The guy seems legit, and a big part of his reason is to reduce moderation here.