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The fact that she is also a victim doesn't make her not an abuser though.
Yes, they both needed help decades ago, but that doesn't excuse either of their abuse. He's an abuser, she's an abuser. Neither should be defended, and both need help.
But none of those things justify her abuse, and none of those things means anyone should defend her abuse.
Sure, but neither deserve hate either, it isn't useful or helpful. Sure, be wary. But hate doesn't do anything useful.