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Law is not morality, courts are not really suited to deal with situations like this. They both needed help, not to fight and be convicted or whatever. It was an unhelpful show trial.
Restorative and transformative justice is what was needed so these clearly damaged people could heal.
The fact that she is also a victim doesn't make her not an abuser though.
Yes, they both needed help decades ago, but that doesn't excuse either of their abuse. He's an abuser, she's an abuser. Neither should be defended, and both need help.
But none of those things justify her abuse, and none of those things means anyone should defend her abuse.
Sure, but neither deserve hate either, it isn't useful or helpful. Sure, be wary. But hate doesn't do anything useful.