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What took me far too long to realize is that most NTs want to be buttered up.
When people do it to me and I know I don't deserve it it makes me feel sick to my stomach, especially if I realize they're doing it to manipulate me into something. And when I do it to others who don't deserve it I KNOW there is no way they can't detect the lack of sincerity in my voice. I mean there CAN"T be! Otherwise everyone would just lie all the time with no consequences.
And I KNOW there are conseuqences for lying so this can't be how the world really works BUT DAMN does it look it
Is that just how NTs work? Bullshitting people and playing on pride to get what you want?
Is that why I've gotten fucking nowhere in life?!
I fucking hate nts so much so fucking much
Living up to your username today I see. I get it. Everyone needs to rant to an understanding party sometimes.
I find it helps to separate intentionally harmful lies from the "social niceties" that are required to grease the wheels of conversation in my head. I'm falsely representing what's happening yes, but it's part of the social rituals required to function in society so I do it anyways.
I've also found it's helpful to focus on the more truthful side of whatever is happening. "I love how much work you put into this" instead of "wow you did such a great job on this" type of difference. Gotta be careful because it can come across as sarcastic, but I usually manage to show sincerity better when I'm actually feeling sincere, so the outright false stuff comes across as sarcastic anyways. Might as well try for a more sincere
And, yeah, at the end of the day, people like hearing good things said about themselves, even if it's not actually true. There's narcissism in that, but given that I can't change that behavior I might as well work with or around it as best I can. If that means more frequent but less sincere compliments, well, I like making a habit of finding the good in people anyways.
I am so fucking done with you unoriginal assholes, try for once to have an original thought
I uh, wasn't trying to be an asshole. I'm sorry it didn't work that way.