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- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
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- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
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- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
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- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
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Echoing the suggestions from others, don't mention being trans or strangeness at being best (wo)man. You don't need to explain yourself or anything, just talk about your friendship with the groom, the happiness you've seen in the couple, talk about things they share that make them such a strong couple, and if you wanna bring some humour you can always share a story that might (lightly!) embarrass the groom but that you can use to maybe highlight a positive quality he has or talk about how he's grown since then.
Your role there is to give the guests some insight from a close friend into the couple's relationship and how special it is, and to help the newlyweds feel the strength of their relationship as they solidify it with their marriage. You can talk about yourself if it genuinely comes up in what you want to say, of course, but only if it's something that's ultimately more about the couple.
Understood, thanks for laying it out so clearly!
That said, I think your joke was really funny! PugEnjoyer is probably right that some asshole family members might not, and it's not your event, so. But it's their loss.