Men’s Mental Health
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Did you have any hobbies/interests before you met her that you let lapse? Rekindle them. That will bring you back to times before you were with her and maybe redirect you towards something that helps you move on.
That, and time.
Every time I try I can't focus on any of it, I just sit there staring blankly and usually end up just going to bed or rotting my brain with more YouTube to try and distract me (it doesn't really work).
The hole will be there for a while. And that’s okay. Don’t think those emotions should be forced away, or aren’t valid. Give them time. But try to step outside your own head for a little bit each day. Stop and force yourself to really notice something, whether it’s as big as a beautiful sunset, or as small as a butterfly. Going places like the woods, or parks, where you have a higher chance of encountering this stuff, helps.
It’s all too easy to fall into yourself in situations like this, and when that happens you run the risk of getting stuck like that. When your world becomes that small, it’s hard to see things in perspective.
If it helps, I’ve found paper books more distracting than YouTube. Physical thing where I have to hold it, feel the weight, turn the pages, and read the words seems to help a lot more than even an e-book.
I hate admitting this, but I absolutely struggle to read books, the last book I read was well over a decade ago. I read a lot of text, but in short form. My attention span is absolutely fucked and that's regardless of current depression. I was diagnosed and prescribed for ADHD but the meds made my depression so much worse amount l among other things, the AD and anti anxiety meds have been more helpful to me at least I can say.