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Exploring sexuality within a closed monogamous relationship. Questions(s)? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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So, I realized a Lil while back, (2+y) I'm mtf trans. My spouse and I have been together ~16 years and now she's committed to seeing this through and seeing how things end up because she loves me, not my flesh necessarily. But, she's concerned because we grew up with a very strict, conservative, religious background and did always consider ourselves cishet.

She loves me for me, but is worried about the future and super curious about exploring her sexuality to figure out if she's as straight as she thought (she's also had some do I want her or to be her thoughts).

Main point is, does anyone have any suggestions for how she can explore and figure things out without opening the marriage, and preferably without porn?

I'm still struggling to understand the romantic and sexual attraction spectrums and where I fit in the, but she seems very high on the romantic spectrum as in, she can't imagine being intimate without a serious relationship.

I don't know. I'm just looking for options to help her figure herself out, and us out, while I figure myself out too.

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[–] irvinefantasyno@beehaw.org 2 points 16 hours ago

My knee-jerk reaction was to go "uh, really? A munch?" but you may be onto something here.

At least in my neck of the woods, the focus is on socializing and getting to know people-- and education, and safety, along with the fun stuff. That is a pretty good start, actually.

You can also find adjacent groups because yes, kinky people got hobbies like everyone else. There are trans support groups, board gamers, video gamers, and neeeererrrrrds.

So, yeah. I guess it wouldn't hurt after all!