Unrelated to the meme itself but I fucking hate the term "neurospicy". It reeks of TikTokers trying to posit themselves as "quirky" in their bio and has the same problematic downplaying of actual issues that "it's not a disability, it's a superpower" does.

[+] peoplebeproblems@midwest.social -13 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago) (17 children)

Hot take: it's not a disability. But that might just be my misunderstanding.

A disability doesn't improve with medicine. Stimulants are undeniably effective in controlling ADHD. A disability would be dyslexia, dyscalcula(sp?). My ex wife had all three. When she took her meds, like me, she'd calm way down and be able to focus on what she chose. However, despite decades of work, she still struggles reading and doing basic math.

Edit: ok, fine those are good points. But y'all don't get it. That would mean I have a disability, and while, objectively, yes, that makes sense, it would mean that I am not capable of perfection, which can't be true as everyone expects perfection of me, and if I can't be perfect undisabled I'm certainly not perfect disabled. I can't be disabled. If I'm disabled that makes me a target for persecution and I like not being persecuted a lot

Edit 2: holy shit I just realized the downvotes mean I was right about it being a hot take lol

[–] LucasWaffyWaf@lemmy.world 2 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Goodness, there's a lot of hardcore denial in your edit. I suffer from a similar level of "society/people expect utter perfection of myself" so I understand why your instinct is to deny the possibility of having a disability.

[–] peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 1 points 12 hours ago (2 children)

I won't disagree with that denialism.

My parents were successful seemingly effortlessly. My dad has dyslexia, but is a retired math professor. He reads a lot, if not a lot slower than the rest of my family. My mom an engineer.

I'm an engineer. I can't connect the possibility of being disabled to my career. It's not acceptable socially, or professionally. There are no real safety nets. No drugs will make my day any easier. I can't undo psychological damage done to me. But I need to survive. I need to make sure my kid survives. Disability is not an option. It's just not, not for me.

If the rest of you want to be disabled fine. But don't include me.

[–] Almonds@mander.xyz 1 points 2 hours ago

I made my earlier comment because you said that it isn't a disability because there's medication for it. I'd like to add more to it if you feel like reading.

There is a spectrum for ADHD, and many kids who were diagnosed with it grow up to be functioning adults who don't need medication. There are also many children diagnosed with ADHD who grow up and can't function in society.

It's a little different when we're diagnosed as adults. Some people just wonder why they do some things differently than their peers, but they aren't disadvantaged because they are neuro divergent. Others similarly choose to use support from family, friends, and therapists to develop coping skills because they are on the more mild end of the spectrum.

I am not part of those groups. I was diagnosed at 35 because I've had an extremely difficult life, and it mostly boils down to ADHD. As soon as I was medicated, I was able to start working towards my goals, and I've earned a few achievements that I've always wanted. The motivation was there, but my ADHD symptoms were so severe that I was at a disadvantage. I dont want to be disabled, but that's the language available to me for my situation

[–] Doubleohdonut@lemmy.ca 1 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Totally fair, my friend. You do you, but know that from the outside looking in, it seems like you're putting a lot of additional pressure on yourself to reach "perfection". Only you can know if this approach is working for you, regardless of the various labels society is trying on at this time.

I saw you got a lot of downvotes, but to me you are asking the same questions as the rest of us. If your experience is downvoted, don't worry about it. These things are totally subjective, nuanced to talk about, and there isn't 1 single "correct" universal answer. I personally benefitted from listening to the Anxious Overachiever podcast, which helped me realise that people in positions I percieve to be successful are struggling as hard as I do sometimes.

I appreciate you sharing your experience and broadening the discussion 🙂

[–] peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 1 points 5 hours ago

Thanks I'll check it out. That... Sort of sounds exactly like what I need

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