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Unrelated to the meme itself but I fucking hate the term "neurospicy". It reeks of TikTokers trying to posit themselves as "quirky" in their bio and has the same problematic downplaying of actual issues that "it's not a disability, it's a superpower" does.
Hot take: it's not a disability. But that might just be my misunderstanding.
A disability doesn't improve with medicine. Stimulants are undeniably effective in controlling ADHD. A disability would be dyslexia, dyscalcula(sp?). My ex wife had all three. When she took her meds, like me, she'd calm way down and be able to focus on what she chose. However, despite decades of work, she still struggles reading and doing basic math.
Edit: ok, fine those are good points. But y'all don't get it. That would mean I have a disability, and while, objectively, yes, that makes sense, it would mean that I am not capable of perfection, which can't be true as everyone expects perfection of me, and if I can't be perfect undisabled I'm certainly not perfect disabled. I can't be disabled. If I'm disabled that makes me a target for persecution and I like not being persecuted a lot
Edit 2: holy shit I just realized the downvotes mean I was right about it being a hot take lol
I think I understand what you're saying, but disabilities can absolutely improve with meds. Not all of them, and not all the time, but it sounds like that's what your ex-wife's experience was. She had disabling conditions, but it was more manageable when she took her meds. Despite this, there are aspects of her disability which were (are?) still challenging.
To me, THAT'S the experience which defines disability: you've got a condition which, despite yours and your doctor's best efforts, continues to express itself. And even then, I can see a lot of potential issues using that definition in terms of government support. It's compicated.