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Unrelated to the meme itself but I fucking hate the term "neurospicy". It reeks of TikTokers trying to posit themselves as "quirky" in their bio and has the same problematic downplaying of actual issues that "it's not a disability, it's a superpower" does.
My take: It’s only a disability within our society, with its made up mores and expectations.
Point is, play the game but don’t feel bad about yourself.
Hot take: it's not a disability. But that might just be my misunderstanding.
A disability doesn't improve with medicine. Stimulants are undeniably effective in controlling ADHD. A disability would be dyslexia, dyscalcula(sp?). My ex wife had all three. When she took her meds, like me, she'd calm way down and be able to focus on what she chose. However, despite decades of work, she still struggles reading and doing basic math.
Edit: ok, fine those are good points. But y'all don't get it. That would mean I have a disability, and while, objectively, yes, that makes sense, it would mean that I am not capable of perfection, which can't be true as everyone expects perfection of me, and if I can't be perfect undisabled I'm certainly not perfect disabled. I can't be disabled. If I'm disabled that makes me a target for persecution and I like not being persecuted a lot
Edit 2: holy shit I just realized the downvotes mean I was right about it being a hot take lol
So if there is a solution that is somewhat effective at medicating a disability it isn't a disability ?
Stimulants are effective but they don't make ADHD disappear
I'm already knee deep in this shit, so why not -
She still can't stairs
Medication is a privilege that many with ADHD can't access. It also doesn't work for everyone. Are those people not disabled?
Also, ADHD is more than struggling to focus, or to sit still. Many of us struggle to start tasks, manage money, keep things tidy, or manage time. These issues can cause so many problems in life, ranging from inability to hold a job to relationship issues. Once the medication wears off, these symptoms rise back to the surface; because ADHD medication isn't a cure, it's symptom management.
I wish i could start literally anything at all. I cant even enjoy video games half the time, ill just sit there with steam open and watch youtube or anime.
You can start YouTube or anime, though?
Do you really not get how actively playing a video game requires more executive functioning than hitting a video play button?
Sure, I guess so. But here you are saying "I wish I could start literally anything at all", and then you immediately talk about literally starting something. You clearly can start some things. I don't think that watching anime and YouTube is time wasted.
I’m not the original commenter, I’m just skeptical that someone can’t see the difference in cognitive effort required for the two things.
Washing the dishes and running a marathon are both starting things, so if you can do one you should clearly be able to do the other, right?
I think I understand what you're saying, but disabilities can absolutely improve with meds. Not all of them, and not all the time, but it sounds like that's what your ex-wife's experience was. She had disabling conditions, but it was more manageable when she took her meds. Despite this, there are aspects of her disability which were (are?) still challenging.
To me, THAT'S the experience which defines disability: you've got a condition which, despite yours and your doctor's best efforts, continues to express itself. And even then, I can see a lot of potential issues using that definition in terms of government support. It's compicated.
Goodness, there's a lot of hardcore denial in your edit. I suffer from a similar level of "society/people expect utter perfection of myself" so I understand why your instinct is to deny the possibility of having a disability.
I won't disagree with that denialism.
My parents were successful seemingly effortlessly. My dad has dyslexia, but is a retired math professor. He reads a lot, if not a lot slower than the rest of my family. My mom an engineer.
I'm an engineer. I can't connect the possibility of being disabled to my career. It's not acceptable socially, or professionally. There are no real safety nets. No drugs will make my day any easier. I can't undo psychological damage done to me. But I need to survive. I need to make sure my kid survives. Disability is not an option. It's just not, not for me.
If the rest of you want to be disabled fine. But don't include me.
This is a pretty deep question, and there's a lot of debate about it. I'm still on the fence, myself.
If your ex-wife found herself in a situation where she had to go without her meds she'd certainly struggle a lot harder than with her meds. How is that any less a disability than a PTSD victim needing antidepressants to quell their unending anxieties, or someone hard of hearing needing electronic hearing aids in order to hear better?
ADHD is objectively a disability. Medicine to make it easier to deal with doesn't make the disability stop existing. Hell, there's a number of people for whom stimulants don't work, or who need unreasonably high doses in order for it to work. The existence of medicine doesn't make their disability less disabling.