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on the male loneliness epidemic (infosec.pub)
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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

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[–] AnyOldName3@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You're already doing better than a whole lot of people if you're getting invited to parties. Of the people I was at school, university, or work with, I'm the only one who bothers hosting parties, and that won't broaden my social circle as I already know everyone. Most people don't have enough living space to have more than a few people over and can't afford to cater for a bunch of extra people. Even for attending parties someone else hosts, travel and accommodation can be a pain. If you're not within taxi range and there isn't abundant late night public transport, you'll either need to not drink and then drive home, find a hotel, or hope the party is small enough that there'll be space to crash.

[–] Soup@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

We do things at the park. Picnic potluck things where bringing food isn’t really the biggest point so it’s more like snacks and things, and people know to eat before and after

And look, if you live out in the middle of nowhere I get it, but that’s not a “male loneliness epidemic” that’s just the reality of that type of living; it’s very isolating and if it is specific to men then it’s time to ask what the women are doing differently and give it a go.