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on the male loneliness epidemic (infosec.pub)

submitted 3 days ago by carotte@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/curatedtumblr@sh.itjust.works

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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

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[+] LustyArgonianMana@lemmy.world -7 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (18 children)

This would imply that regardless of any other possible causes, I am deserving of ridicule because I don’t live life like you

No.

I was right to say “because of social anxiety, btw, not that you’d care”, because immediately here’s a reply that implies my social anxiety is not real, or it is but it’s not relevant. You assume the worst of me because I dare not have a girlfriend

No.

However, what I do care is if people assume I’m a horrible piece of shit because of it.

No one assumes this just because you don't have a girlfriend. It is the narrative you have around the lack of girlfriend that gives that away.

My reply to you is useless. I never had a girlfriend and therefore anything I say is discarded because I have to be an asshole in order for that to be the case.

You, like most incels and misogynists, are a vulnerable narcissist. That is why you are constantly playing victim and changing the narrative to fit the idea that you're a victim. That is also why you have social issues - you don't know how to love unconditionally/engage in radical acceptance. However, you're going to pathologically change this info I gave you into you being a victim somehow, and you can just save it. I don't care and won't give you any narcissistic supply to feed your victim narrative.

[–] starman2112@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 days ago (16 children)

I don't care and won't give you any narcissistic supply to feed your victim narrative.

Weird thing to say at the end of a comment where you proved every concern of his right

[–] LustyArgonianMana@lemmy.world -3 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (15 children)

It is not my job to manage his feelings. That's caretaking a narcissist and makes them worse. It's ok to communicate (ie "I do not care") and put up boundaries (I won't respond). Further, his main concern was that him not having a girlfriend makes others label him as weird - no. It's that he himself is weird, not anything to do with women. So no, I did nothing to "confirm" his false beliefs, it is not my job as a woman to caretake or cater to his fears or perform emotional labor for men. Grow up.

But nice attempt at DARVO there

[–] ThorrJo@lemmy.sdf.org 3 points 2 days ago

But nice attempt at DARVO there

You dregs from reddit are so much worse than the Eternal November dregs from Twitter, at least most of those had a couple brain cells to rub together and maybe also one or two original thoughts in their entire life.

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