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Don't be mean. I promise to do my best to judge that fairly.
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If you are male and lonely but it is because of social anxiety, why do you feel attacked by this? You have a different, external reason for being lonely than the broad swath of the criticism.
Why do you feel attacked by this if it is advocating for circumstances (men improving their interelational dynamics to build deeper friendships) that would likely improve your opportunities to comfortably challenge your social anxiety?
If you feel attacked, is it because your attitude is the problem being criticized? That rather than seeing your social anxiety as your burden to overcome, you instead see it as a reason that society owes you access to the company of women you find attractive - that at the heart of it, you feel aggreived that women don't have to pick you?
Because these posts lump all men without relationships together. Does the Tumblr user above make any mention of exceptions? Nope. The post boils down to men who didn't date didn't succeed because "skill issue". This would imply that regardless of any other possible causes, I am deserving of ridicule because I don't live life like you.
You yourself make assumptions about me. I was right to say "because of social anxiety, btw, not that you'd care", because immediately here's a reply that implies my social anxiety is not real, or it is but it's not relevant. You assume the worst of me because I dare not have a girlfriend. This is precisely the issue. I've long since moved on from pursuing dating. I don't care if I never have a girlfriend anymore. However, what I do care is if people assume I'm a horrible piece of shit because of it.
Long story short, your comment is case in point: It does not matter what I say. My reply to you is useless. I never had a girlfriend and therefore anything I say is discarded because I have to be an asshole in order for that to be the case.
No.
No.
No one assumes this just because you don't have a girlfriend. It is the narrative you have around the lack of girlfriend that gives that away.
You, like most incels and misogynists, are a vulnerable narcissist. That is why you are constantly playing victim and changing the narrative to fit the idea that you're a victim. That is also why you have social issues - you don't know how to love unconditionally/engage in radical acceptance. However, you're going to pathologically change this info I gave you into you being a victim somehow, and you can just save it. I don't care and won't give you any narcissistic supply to feed your victim narrative.
Go. back. to. reddit.