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How abnormal is it for a mother to buy her son a fleshlight for his 18th birthday?
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this post was submitted on 31 Jul 2025
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No, it's definitely abnormal because it's weird for a parent to help their offspring masturbate.
What about a father buying his daughter a vibrator for her 18th birthday?
Help??
A sleeve is basically PPE. Do you know how common it is to have damage due to hand-to-hand combat instead of using one? Sleeves should be part of the sex talk.
"Son, weve noticed blah blah blah. You should be using the proper tool for your body's health and safety."
I'm not the authority to ask about vibrators.
It's not weird to make them aware of it or even suggest it. It's weird to buy them one - especially as a birthday gift.
"Dad and I thought long and hard about what to get you and we choose this masturbation tool because we thought about you masturbating"
Every single one of you is applying extra context to the situation to purposefully make it weird.
That's fine, you are free to feel however you want about it.
You don’t know if it’s appropriate for a father to buy their daughter a sex toy?
Hello,
Thank you for your response.
Per my last comment you will see that i don't consider myself in a position to make a judgement on that.
This is because my knowledge of 'toys' for that particular genetalia is limited. You'll note that my comment referring to the 'toys' to be used with a penis was about health and safety and didn't mention pleasure at all. I am not in possession of the level of knowledge required to make similar judgements for 'toys' for any other genetalia.
If you have any other questions feel free to shove them up your ass--make sure your choice in toy has a flared base or other method of extraction.
Thank you.
I think you're missing the point that we're trying to get to. or at least, I was trying to get to.
I think you're loosing sight of the fact that giving sex toys of any stripe as a birthday gift is not a sexual wellness thing, or a sex-safety talk. While there's probably some conceivable scenario in which it might be appropriate, this is not it.
it doesn't require any kind of experience to see that, and what Glimse was trying to do, is "flipping the genders" If it's creepy for a dad to buy a sex toy for the daughter, as a birthday gift, it's also creepy for a mother. (It would likely be only slightly less creepy father to son.)
Sexual wellness and safety talks don't happen at birthday parties. At least, not any bday party I've been to.
Apply whatever context you want to make it weird. It reappy doesn't matter to me how you feel about it.
Yes, this is exactly the point I was making.
Parents generally put thought into their gifts to their kids. This is saying "I've been thinking about you masturbating. I've been thinking about how to help you reach climax"