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on the male loneliness epidemic (infosec.pub)

submitted 2 weeks ago by carotte@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/curatedtumblr@sh.itjust.works

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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

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[–] starman2112@sh.itjust.works 13 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

If you are male and lonely but it is because of social anxiety, why do you feel attacked by this?

I'm not ElPsyKongroo, but I feel personally attacked by this because it calls me out specifically:

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

They're directly adressing me. Of course I take offense.

If you feel attacked, is it because your attitude is the problem being criticized?

It's because my attitude is being ignored. I do try to be as pleasant as possible to be around. My social anxiety is my burden to overcome, but the annihilation of third places and the skyrocketing income inequality preventing people from having the time or money to date is a societal problem that contributes heavily to this trend. I really like the implication that if I'm upset about this situation, it must mean that I want the government to force women to date me