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If you are male and lonely but it is because of social anxiety, why do you feel attacked by this? You have a different, external reason for being lonely than the broad swath of the criticism.
Why do you feel attacked by this if it is advocating for circumstances (men improving their interelational dynamics to build deeper friendships) that would likely improve your opportunities to comfortably challenge your social anxiety?
If you feel attacked, is it because your attitude is the problem being criticized? That rather than seeing your social anxiety as your burden to overcome, you instead see it as a reason that society owes you access to the company of women you find attractive - that at the heart of it, you feel aggreived that women don't have to pick you?
Because these posts lump all men without relationships together. Does the Tumblr user above make any mention of exceptions? Nope. The post boils down to men who didn't date didn't succeed because "skill issue". This would imply that regardless of any other possible causes, I am deserving of ridicule because I don't live life like you.
You yourself make assumptions about me. I was right to say "because of social anxiety, btw, not that you'd care", because immediately here's a reply that implies my social anxiety is not real, or it is but it's not relevant. You assume the worst of me because I dare not have a girlfriend. This is precisely the issue. I've long since moved on from pursuing dating. I don't care if I never have a girlfriend anymore. However, what I do care is if people assume I'm a horrible piece of shit because of it.
Long story short, your comment is case in point: It does not matter what I say. My reply to you is useless. I never had a girlfriend and therefore anything I say is discarded because I have to be an asshole in order for that to be the case.
Actually it is lumping together the people who self identify as belonging to a "male loneliness epidemic".
Something that is kinda counterintuitive if you just think about it for a second..... Can a demographic of people have an epidemic of loneliness. If they're so lonely why don't they just be friends? Are there not other men experiencing the same anxieties as you in this self identified group?
Again.....it seems like loneliness isn't the issue. It seems you're just doing the thing the og post accused people of doing. If it's not about sex, why don't you just make some guy friends, or just friends who happen to be girls?
And once again, I am accused of lying because it doesn't fit your narrative. I'm not even gonna expand further on the fact that I do have friends who happen to be girls. The reason I won't expand further is because you'll just assume I am lying about it. Just as Vreyan31 did, and just as you did.
You are purposedly pretending not to understand that my issue is not sex, it's people assuming I am a piece of shit for not having sex. And to further your own view, you just prove my point, which is that people will disregard anything I say just cause I didn't have a relationship. Seems that the person obsessed with sex isn't me. I'm not the one making judgements of others based on whether they did it or not.
When did I accuse you of lying? I think you may be misunderstanding the original post, and the social implementations of a more reclusive generation butting against traditional social norms. However, id hardly say that's an accusation of lying.
Then how does your situation apply to the original claim, and why do you think you belong in the "male loneliness epidemic"?
Who made that claim? You interpreted that based on the original post.....but if you have friends, why do you consider yourself lonely?
Being friends with people is a relationship........ The only thing anyone can logically conclude based on the framework of this post is that your self identification of belonging to the epidemic revolves around sex.
Okay, so you have plenty of friends, even with girls. But you are still identifying as being part of the male loneliness epidemic because of......? What exactly?