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on the male loneliness epidemic (infosec.pub)
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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

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[โ€“] Vreyan31@reddthat.com 1 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I think this is still a skills issue, the question is "what skill?"

You have a passionate interest. What you don't know how to do is talk about it in a way that shares why it is so fascinating to you. That can be worked on. It'll take practice, including more times where you flop, but you can try to watch how people with other niche interests pull people in and create intrigue and excitement.

Trying to learn this skill for your passion will help you do it more generally; it will make you a more interesting person that people enjoy connecting to.

[โ€“] Mniot@programming.dev 3 points 5 days ago

++ but I think it can't be overstated how much effort social skills takes. Especially if you're starting from near zero.