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on the male loneliness epidemic (infosec.pub)

submitted 3 days ago by carotte@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/curatedtumblr@sh.itjust.works

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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

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[–] BussyCat@lemmy.world -2 points 3 days ago (12 children)

The idea that men are struggling to find friends is a real concern that should be addressed, people being unable to find sexual companionship because people of their desired sex don’t want to be around them due to their personal choices is something that can be made fun of.

Many women want a guy who is pro choice, can cook, is able to hold a conversation that’s not about sex, is capable of having platonic female friends, has hobbies, and has decent hygiene.

If that is not something you can attain, that’s fine and there are still women out there for you but that eliminates a large percentage so if you want to be picky on top of that you are going to have a problem

[–] damnedfurry@lemmy.world 37 points 3 days ago (5 children)

The idea that men are struggling to find friends is a real concern that should be addressed, people being unable to find sexual companionship because people of their desired sex don’t want to be around them due to their personal choices is something that can be made fun of.

But conflating those two categories of men as if all lonely men are the latter, does no good to anyone, and only helps fuel misandric stereotypes.

[+] BussyCat@lemmy.world -22 points 3 days ago (4 children)

The conflation is the problem but in my experience it is more people who are blaming the former when it is clearly the latter

Like if you walk around with a maga hat and tell women your body my choice and also complain you can’t find a nice women to settle down that is a skill issue

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

So tell me this then: When people hear that a man hasn't dated, why is the first thing that comes to your mind the assumption that "you walk around with a maga hat and tell women your body my choice"? Is that the only explanation? Is there no nuance in the world? If a man has never dated, is he automatically MAGA and anti-abortion?

[–] BussyCat@lemmy.world -2 points 2 days ago

It’s not the first thought, however when a person blames society for all their problems instead of making an effort to improve themselves that screams maga

Plenty of people struggle to date for a variety of reasons but the people out there calling not get laid the “male loneliness epidemic” are generally not the most normal people

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