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No, if matching your words to your thoughts would hurt someone the correct solution is to change your thinking.
I have some disagreement about this. Since our thoughts are a mixture of our conscious decisions and cultural context there are times when offensive thoughts bubble up. What make you a good person is not acting on this offensive thoughts, noting them and consciously attempting to change them. So you are correct to change your thinking but its a process and no one is perfect. As you change them they lessen but we all have times when our thoughts aren't as enlightened as we want to be.