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"Request?" Dude. Read the rules.
I should have sent a PM, but I want others to see this since you're getting upvoted, and the mods here are courteous: do not treat a community's #1 rule as a 'request' just because that rule says 'women only'. I would never, ever comment here other than to point out the hypocrisy of such a violation.
The rules are printed many times, very visibly and unambiguously.
You want to discuss? You can make a post in some other community, linking this one.
Sent from an 'angry guy lurking': Your comment, disrespecting a space like this, makes me feel far worse. You make me feel self-consciousness, like I'm walking on eggshells.
(Apologies, mods, please community ban me if that seems warranted).
I am mod and I absolutely never ban supportive people or delete supportive comments. We take a lot of manosphere shit here, and we all really do appreciate the men that have our backs. Obviously don't comment again, but I honestly am grateful for you
I get that you think you're being an ally here by defending us.
But what kind of ally directly disrespects their counterpart by ignoring the rules because they're angry? What kind of ally then does this twice in the same thread after someone points it out? How are you being an "ally" by assuming we poor little weak women can't handle our own defence?
The rule here is very clearly written:
It boils down to two words: "women only". Which one didn't you understand when you decided to be exactly like the men you're castigating?
Hey, I get where you're coming from, especially since everything calmed down before I checked the reply.
However, I want you to consider where I came from. Like literally what led me here. It was from my "All" feed. I don't really recognize the name of this community, so it's probably either my first time interacting with a post here, or I've interacted with the community in the past but was also ignorant of where the posts were coming from.
So when I referred to the "request," it wasn't because I read the rules and subscribed and then came in to plead that I get special rules. It was because I was close to tapping "Post" and I saw some caption text asking for only women to reply. That's why I said anything.
One of the things that keeps me coming back to Lemmy every single day is being able to hear the direct words of people very different from me without having to go through algorithms and corporate filters. When it comes to communities on here dedicated to a certain demographic or to marginalized groups, it's usually pretty clearly "X group and allies" because it's more about having a safe space and less about exclusion or gatekeeping. And it seems like the decent folks here are no different!
And I'm not accusing you of the exclusion/gatekeeping stuff. I get that it was just a rush of anger with my wording and with you actually knowing the community rules, etc. But hey now thanks to this I'm going to subscribe and follow this community. And maybe I'll break the letter of the law and comment again, but I'll probably follow the spirit of the law 99% of the time. :)
Thanks Zink, but if you comment again I'll ban you. I don't like to ban people who are being supportive, but you're knowingly breaking the rules so I'll have to.