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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

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[–] carotte@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 days ago (31 children)

depends on your circles. in feminist and leftist circles, it usually means the first

but most men outside of those circles use it just to mean "im not getting the dates i am ENTITLED to 😡"

[–] Beacon@fedia.io 54 points 3 days ago (26 children)

I don't know who gave you that idea, but it's incorrect

[–] bacon_pdp@lemmy.world 12 points 3 days ago (22 children)

That would be my husband’s friend from college who despite getting lots of interest on dating apps; wants nothing to do with any of the women interested in him.

And I quote:

Too fat

Too old

Too skinny

Too young

Butter face

She has a PHD

She has kids

Etc etc

Honestly, though, that sounds like an avoidant attachment style. He desperately wants intimacy, but it scares the bejeezus out of him, so he unconsciously finds a way to sandbag every potential connection.

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