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on the male loneliness epidemic (infosec.pub)

submitted 3 days ago by carotte@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/curatedtumblr@sh.itjust.works

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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

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[–] damnedfurry@lemmy.world 71 points 3 days ago (37 children)

In so many words, this is just another "you're lonely because you're a bad person" misandrist jerk.

[–] BussyCat@lemmy.world -2 points 3 days ago (12 children)

The idea that men are struggling to find friends is a real concern that should be addressed, people being unable to find sexual companionship because people of their desired sex don’t want to be around them due to their personal choices is something that can be made fun of.

Many women want a guy who is pro choice, can cook, is able to hold a conversation that’s not about sex, is capable of having platonic female friends, has hobbies, and has decent hygiene.

If that is not something you can attain, that’s fine and there are still women out there for you but that eliminates a large percentage so if you want to be picky on top of that you are going to have a problem

[–] LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 16 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Alright, anedotical evidence time! I am aware I am in a bit of a bubble, as I try to avoid the local variant of maga as much as possible in my life.

But I know several single male friends who I would say are at least of average attractiveness, smart, funny, know how to use a shower and a toothbrush, have decent education/money, cool hobbies and are politically progressive. Also I know of at least three of them who are deeply unhappy about not getting into a meaningful relationship.

Sometimes people are just stuck in a life situation or a place with not many compatible options and ways to meet people.

[–] BussyCat@lemmy.world -5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

How do you define “cool hobbies”

[–] LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Skinning hookers in their basements, plotting the violent takeover of the government, woodworking, climbing, just the usual boy stuff, you know?

Jokes aside, "things that a large percentage of the population looks at and says, hey, that is a cool hobby". How is that for a definition?

[–] BussyCat@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago

Woodworking is a fun thing to do and a great conversation starter but also commonly done at home or at a shared work area that is all male

Rock climbing and plotting the violent takeover of the government has worked well for me however

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