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on the male loneliness epidemic (infosec.pub)
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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

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[–] unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de 122 points 3 days ago (37 children)

I mean it also does mean the first thing tho no?

[–] blackstampede@sh.itjust.works 31 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (4 children)

I've only rarely heard it used as a shorthand for "I/we/you can't get laid". I've always interpreted it to mean the first thing. OP isn't wrong about the second though, honestly. It is a skill issue.

[–] Velypso@sh.itjust.works 9 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Only if youre ableist.

[–] blackstampede@sh.itjust.works 3 points 3 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Sure, there are a minority of people who have legitimate physical disabilities that make it difficult for them to get laid, or impossible to have sex at all. I was under the impression that we were discussing the general case, though. I'm not going to prefix every comment I make with a statement about the exceptions when I'm speaking casually.

It makes conversation awkward and difficult to follow, because you have to dig through the throat-clearing and ass-covering to figure out what the person is trying to say. If you want to discuss those exceptions, feel free to bring them up, but if you feel that I'm ableist for refusing to pad out all my comments with performative acknowledgements to satisfy your asinine sense of morality, then I don't know what to tell you. Well, actually, I guess I do: "No".

[–] PyroNeurosis@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Right, it's very early and I rarely (if ever) have a sexual appetite, so Imma need clarification: how is getting laid not a skill issue? It is my understanding that if people want it enough, they find ways to change themselves or their circumstances to make it happen.

[–] AnyOldName3@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

Just like how if people want to be billionaires enough, they find ways to change themselves or their circumstances to make it happen. People only have partial control over who they are and the circumstances they're in, and the changes they're able to make don't always make a difference here.

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